The Perks of Being Happy

There is this quote in one of my favourite movies „ The perks of being a wallflower“. It says:

 “We accept the love we think we deserve.” 

In the movie it’s mostly meant in a negative way. As in, if you think less of yourself or don’t appreciate yourself enough, you will only accept love that is bad for you and not at all what you may really deserve. And that is true, but

if you ask me, it can be the other way round as well. It can be kind of a positive thing. If you think highly of yourself and you truly like and respect yourself and maybe you are even a little bit proud of yourself, in an unconceived way, than this quote is a good thing. Because I don’t think any of us should accept anything less. 

The whole “lower-your-expectation” talk seems a little bit odd to me. Of course, life is nothing like a movie and love is not quite like music. So, we for sure can’t expect anything greater than reality or anything brighter than life, but we can insist, that we find something that makes the reality of life a little bit more beautiful. 

Maybe it’s allowed to overhear people sometimes, who call you "picky" or ignore the line “pick one before the good ones are gone”. Nobody should care. You should not care about that too much. You should care about who you are and what kind of person you want to be. If you are happy with that, and I hope you are, you should realize that you really deserve almost everything and then you should look for everything. You should not accept less. 

I am single for a long time now, so I can’t say that this concept works necessary, but I can say that the majority of time I am really, really happy with myself. I am not sad, sometimes I may be lonely but, you know, not more than the next person. Believe it or not, you can indeed be happy "on your own".

 

I, nevertheless, don't doubt that the right love is out there and I do hope I can find it or that it finds me someday, however you want to look at it. But the important thing is that it is the RIGHT love for me. You shouldn’t be in a relationship only so you are in a relationship, the same way as you shouldn’t be single only so you can say you are single. You should do it so you can say you are happy. 

Look for love, that doesn’t necessary makes you better, but one that doesn’t change you for the worse.  

"We accept the love, we think we deserve". 

I truly hope, while thinking of ourselves, we always remember, we deserve a lot!